Tuesday, April 6, 2010

"Reason, Season, Lifetime"

I was talking to a friend about different "types" of friendship the other day and made reference to this poem. Sometimes things just need to be shared, and this is one of those things.

“Reason, Season, Lifetime” by Aleksandra Lachut

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.


  1. Damn, that's beautiful. I copied it and sent it to a friend.

  2. She had already seen it. So...

  3. I've seen that also and actually was looking for it a while ago, but couldn't find it so thanks for posting it.

    Someone sent it to me when I was heartbroken about a couple we'd become like family with moving away and it helped me a lot. I used to share it with the kids in the youth group regularly when they were experiencing a loss and it worked for them,too. Whoever wrote it was a genius about relationships.

  4. Reflecting on how and where and why we met, Stacie, you know that so many were "season" friends from there. I'm so grateful you are the "lifetime" kind :) Love you, sistah!

  5. I have read this before but I always enjoy reading reading it again!!